If your child believes something that isn’t true, they won’t have a clear grasp of reality. If they still have that belief when they are older, they are going to make decisions that don’t fit well with reality. How well their decisions fit with reality will determine their quality of life.
The idea that will power is a finite resource is probably a lie according to studies. If so, what does this mean for how you parent?
Humans move to blame faster than accountability. Blame results in shame, anger and conflict.. Accountabilty is where grow lies. How do we help our children, and ourselves, bypass blame for accountability?
We often think of rituals as good, healthy things. But there can be negative ones too. Recent research shows rituals have a real impact on our physiology. How many of your family’s rituals are doing good things to you childrens’ bodies, and how many aren’t?
Checking email for 10 seconds while the kids are in the other room is a bad idea if you want to make the most of your time with your children and build strong relationships with them later in life.
Recently I got an email from dad called Rob asking for advice. He had a promotion to consider, with more pay, but less time with his family. He asked me how I would think about that decision. Here’s an edit version of what I said, together with thoughts on the stories of work we tell ourselves. One healthy, the other not. Which do you listen to?
We’ve all taught our children to lie, inadvertently. What are the implications of this for them as they grow up? What can we learn from the how society has changed, as we look forward at how it will change? How will the degree of morality we consciously and unconsciously teach our children set them up for sucess in the future?
Thoughts on how fatherhood changes men and how men are changing fatherhood.
Lessons on responsibility from moments that surprised the world, even though they shouldn’t have when you think about it.
The guilt we feel as working dads comes from the stories we and others tell ourselves. How we can learn to listen to it when it’s helpful and learn recognise it when it’s unhealthy.
Saying sorry is something I’ve made a conscious effort to do more of with my kids, because it helps repair the connection with them when something has happened to break it, like me nagging or getting cross at them for something they’ve done. It also role models values that are important to me, humility, self-awareness, taking responsibility and kindness.
So when my kids say sorry, I feel good. I feel they are growing, that I’m being a good dad. But recently my kids told my wife that they don’t see the point in apologising to me, because I don’t listen. This was hard for me to hear, so I asked them about it.
Recently I ran a workshop with a high profile financial asset management firm. The dads in the room were all super smart. Hugely driven, disciplined and results focused. A great strength in the workplace. A real issue in the home.
Our children will have to continually learn and change as they get older. No job for life, more likely multiple careers. How do you frame work in a healthy way for them when they are young?
Jack Ma, China's richest man says schools will create unemployable people. A career specialist questions the conventional wisdom of achievement. What are you going to do for your kids?
What can you do if you want to help your kids be more creative, so they have a solid foundation on which to build a fulfilling life?
Suncream led me to a realisation about how seeing things differently made life better for me and my son.
How a change of perspective made me realise how little time I have left with my son.
The specifics of how much sleep your child needs, and some beautifully calming and sweary words from Samuel L Jackson.
How curiosity works and how you can harness it to help your little ones learn, even boring things.
Leaving work at work and really being there for your kids is no easy task. Over the years I've experimented with different approaches and found one that really works.